Ever since I wrote in a previous post about not wanting to look "butch" I realised I should probably clarify what I want by the term butch.
Butch to me is about someone being hyper masculine. VERY masculine. I find that even most cis blokes just aren't that kind of masculine these days so for me being more masculine isn't about being butch. A cisbloke is masculine by his nature, whatever form that takes. For example my fiance does quite masculine, almost butch, type work. He makes knives. He works in his woods. He runs round with his chainsaw and cuts down trees (okay, maybe not butch). But seriously; people expect him to be tall and broad and have a bushy bread. BUT at the same time he enjoys sewing and baking cakes and other typically feminine things, which to me means he's not hyper masculine. And few cis blokes are. But they don't feel the need to justify themselves when it comes to their gender ( kind of the definition of cispriviledge) so I don't feel the need to be butch either. Just because wasn't born with a penis doesn't mean I have to act hyper butch. Of course some blokes are like this, cis or trans, and that's up to them. But I'm not a butch type of bloke and I don't particularly want to be a butch type of women when I'm presenting as a woman (did I say in my last post I don't "present" as a gender, I just am? oops).
I'm never especially feminine, even when I enjoy being a woman, and I don't feel any special need to be especially masculine either.
I hope that clears things up a little. I just wanted to get my thoughts down to stop them going round my head so much. And that is what this journal exists for afterall.
PS sparks, I'm back on messenger, but my other account (the one I use for my main lj account). Can't seem to get your email address right in order to add you. Can you add me?
Butch to me is about someone being hyper masculine. VERY masculine. I find that even most cis blokes just aren't that kind of masculine these days so for me being more masculine isn't about being butch. A cisbloke is masculine by his nature, whatever form that takes. For example my fiance does quite masculine, almost butch, type work. He makes knives. He works in his woods. He runs round with his chainsaw and cuts down trees (okay, maybe not butch). But seriously; people expect him to be tall and broad and have a bushy bread. BUT at the same time he enjoys sewing and baking cakes and other typically feminine things, which to me means he's not hyper masculine. And few cis blokes are. But they don't feel the need to justify themselves when it comes to their gender ( kind of the definition of cispriviledge) so I don't feel the need to be butch either. Just because wasn't born with a penis doesn't mean I have to act hyper butch. Of course some blokes are like this, cis or trans, and that's up to them. But I'm not a butch type of bloke and I don't particularly want to be a butch type of women when I'm presenting as a woman (did I say in my last post I don't "present" as a gender, I just am? oops).
I'm never especially feminine, even when I enjoy being a woman, and I don't feel any special need to be especially masculine either.
I hope that clears things up a little. I just wanted to get my thoughts down to stop them going round my head so much. And that is what this journal exists for afterall.
PS sparks, I'm back on messenger, but my other account (the one I use for my main lj account). Can't seem to get your email address right in order to add you. Can you add me?