"sorry, what did you say your name was?"

At least a few times a day I get asked this towards the end of a call at work. Sometimes it's because the person is keeping a record of who they talk to, sometimes because they just want to have a name to say thank you to. It happens. Even if the gender of your name matches the apparent gender of your voice.

Only now it makes my stomach churn. Because I've been asked it half a dozen times since I changed my name at work. And half those times I got a comment about my name. And whilst I have comebacks to most of the comments I get it still makes my stomach churn.