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to come out or not?
Jun. 9th, 2009 11:55 amI'm beginning to become divided between coming out to my online friends or not.
A couple of days ago I was convinced I need to do it, and do so soon.
Yesterday I was convinced I needed to stay quiet for a while longer.
Today I am torn, and leaning towards coming out.
I think part of the problem is that my gender identity is problematic. I have no plans on being a man full time. But at the exact same time I am not a woman and never will be. My experience with the people I have come out to is that this is even more difficult for people to understand than if I was a 'normal' FtM looking to medically transition. It's not that I don't think it's worth trying to educate about that middle ground, it's just that I know it's hurtful to pour yourself out, explain your gender, and still have people not get it.
You explain that your transgendered, but that you don't want to be a man full time and they seem to think that it means you're happy as a woman.
So this is my distraction today. I have too much time to think about these things and it's not a good thing.
I am thinking about explaining a little, then giving people the chance to ask questions, and then directing those who are interested to this journal. Good idea? Bad?
A couple of days ago I was convinced I need to do it, and do so soon.
Yesterday I was convinced I needed to stay quiet for a while longer.
Today I am torn, and leaning towards coming out.
I think part of the problem is that my gender identity is problematic. I have no plans on being a man full time. But at the exact same time I am not a woman and never will be. My experience with the people I have come out to is that this is even more difficult for people to understand than if I was a 'normal' FtM looking to medically transition. It's not that I don't think it's worth trying to educate about that middle ground, it's just that I know it's hurtful to pour yourself out, explain your gender, and still have people not get it.
You explain that your transgendered, but that you don't want to be a man full time and they seem to think that it means you're happy as a woman.
So this is my distraction today. I have too much time to think about these things and it's not a good thing.
I am thinking about explaining a little, then giving people the chance to ask questions, and then directing those who are interested to this journal. Good idea? Bad?
